Foundation of Marriage — Read Song of Solomon-

First and foremost marriage is not a manmade concept. When man was first ever created by God, he said that it wasn’t good for man to be alone; although man had everything he needed to be happy. He created women FROM mans rib, this is the first ever image of marriage in the bible. It wasn’t with fancy diamond rings, a ceremony, thousands of dollars spent and time waisted, it was a commitment and an understanding. God made Eve to complement the needs of the man and was created to have that unbreakable everlasting bond.

Once they have joined together in this covenant they became one in all things; one flesh. Matthew 19:5–6. Whatever God puts together should never be separated. Marriage was the first institution that God created before the government, church, etc. Humans function best when connecting in healthy ways with each other and this is Gods plan for marriage; to establish strong families built upon his word. Your children are mimickers. They mock what they see and hear.

The purpose for marriage is also to have that stable foundation and household for your children to grow up in a messed up society with a sense of what is actually supposed to be right (in Gods word.) Some of you may be thinking, “just because your raised in a Christian house hold doesn’t mean your children will come out to be the same!” Well news flash, it is still your responsibility to install those correct morals and Gods word in them whether they choose to abide or not.

Do not slack and drift away with the rest of this world and think your kids are going to do whatever they want so you don’t put too much effort in them, or let them find ‘themselves’. It doesn’t work like that, the husband and wife mold their children. 2 Cor 6:14. On top of this, our childhood years should be built on how to be that biblical man and women when we become of age. Not treated as children, go into this ‘adolescent’ stage, and then they just sit there confused between being a child and an adult; they should be in the training stage to be an adult, a husbands, a wife.

The best marriage is between two believers, husband and wife, who can produce godly offspring. Your foundation is God. Unshakable, unbreakable, everlasting, forgiving, etc. If your foundation is built on God himself nothing can shake you; now that doesn’t mean there will not be turmoil. But in those hard times you both will be able to forgive, love and bond knowing the fear of God.

Take these 2 examples into consideration.

1. The husband and wife get into a heated argument. Temptation rises; the husband wants to go to the bar and drink just to get away from his wife. There’s a beautiful lady who approaches him and they start flirting, in his mind (my wife doesn’t appreciate me anyways, its one night she wont know) and he commits adultery. He comes back home they apologize and move on. Months later the wife finds out what happens and the relationship now goes down hill. (This applies the other way around as well with wives leaving).

2. The husband and wife get into a heated argument. Temptation rises; The husband gets in the car to leave to get away from his wife. He thinks and prays to god…he realizes how God forgave him for all of his sins and he shall do the same because they are both sinners. He knows where temptation lies so he stays away from sketchy situations and instead sits in the car listening to music to cool down. He goes back in the house and they both apologize and pray, confessing sin and figuring out a solution.

They both struggles with sin. They both got angry and sinned against each other by yelling and bursting out in the first place. The difference is one put his faith and worry into god and solved the relationship. The other put his flesh before his soul and carried away into danger.

The bible doesn’t command all believers to be married. For example the apostle Paul remained single and devoted his life and tie to serving God. Some people are ok with not being married and that’s just fine; it’s better than getting into a covenant and breaking it. The problem is men and women want to do everything that only a commitment (marriage) requires, without being committed. Sex for example. “I’m not looking for a serious relationship…but do you wanna come over tonight?” Uhmmmm NEXT! So you are okay with letting someone literally into your soul, putting a fingerprint in your life and seeing you vulnerable…and gone in a day. Fix that.

You see, this society is all the same. Less commitment more sex; women wanting to be in the men’s place. Men not picking up their slack and being a biblical man. Giving into temptation and pleasures. Flesh over spirit. Divorce rates are 50% high, if not more. Yet those handfuls of people get judged for being different and not doing these things and not putting themselves in situations that will damn them. Interesting.

Singledom:

Singledom is beautiful. But it is your time to get closer to God, work on yourself for gods pleasure and make sure you are wife and husband worthy. Not to sleep around, waist your brain cells on drugs on alcohol and find that guy person to hopefully hold you up one day. Singleness is preparation for the next stage in life.

Why are divorce rates so high?

People are getting married for the wrong reasons. Period. You think someone is handsome, beautiful, funny, nice and has money and like them in their good times and call that love. People who don’t understand the real definition of love are destined to have a divorce. (checkout my blog about Gods love). Men and women are so comfortable walking around putting their preferences on their sleeves and checking off that list of perfection for that one who comes along.

Yet, they don’t bother to see what God says about the attributes of a biblical wife (proverbs 31) and biblical husband (1 Timothy, 1 Cor 11:3, Col 3:19 and more) God has given you exactly what to look for when it comes to finding a husband and wife and it says nothing about looks, making you laugh and great vibes. In order to get married you have to understand what it looks like to be a husband and wife for yourself and your partner, what marriage is, and what it takes.

1 Cor 13:4–8 (Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.) This is what your marriage is. Marriage resembles the relationship between Christ and the Church!!